Amina, Tara, & Peter (Chapter One Hundred Fifty Million)

Ok. Let me just say this. This will be the LAST time that I post about the highly dysfunctional, three-way relationship that is #LHHNY's Amina, Tara, and Peter. To be honest, the back and forth between all of them is starting to wear on my nerves, and well...I. Just. Can't.

One thing that has struck a nerve with me, though, is the statement that Peter made on the last episode (I believe). He took all the blame for the hurt that he has inflicted on Tara and Amina. Even though Peter does shoulder most of the blame for this situation in which he most certainly is the common denominator, cheating and impregnating another woman while married, there is someone else that should shoulder as much blame as him, and that is Tara.

We go so hard on Amina. Although Amina has accepted much more abhorrent, disgusting behavior from Peter than I ever could, I almost can see Amina's...I don't want to say "logic"...let's just say "motivation", for allowing herself to become pregnant by Peter (even though she aborted THIS child, it is widely reported that she is pregnant again). We may call her "stupid", but what we have to understand is that at the end of the day, this is her HUSBAND. Not her "sided***", not her "bae", this is her husband. Biblically, loving, supporting, and PROCREATING with her husband is what she is supposed to do. Amina married Peter because she LOVED him, and she is trying to make her marriage work. Now, I know that by now, I would have left Peter, or slit his damn throat, whichever came first, but I still understand that she loves her husband. That's her motivation. But that damn Tara...

Tara pretends to be this super confident, strong black woman, but nothing, and I mean NADA--none of her actions personify this independent sister that she wants for us to see. Tara is the key, the "tie that binds", mind you, that keeps this whole mess going. Let me break this down for you young sistas (older, like Tara, if you don't know already): In a relationship, a man is only going to do what a woman allows him to do. If Tara wasn't welcoming Peter with open arms, willing to spread her legs at his beck and call, then she wouldn't be a single mother of almost 3. When I was going thru it with one of my boyfriends, when he wanted to see his son, he came and picked him up; if my son wanted to see him, I took him to his dad. You can't sit around under me...we don't have to be around each other for you to be a father to your son. That's how you handle that. Peter didn't just fall in the p****; Tara threw him a rope and pulled him in! You can't move into the same building with your kids' father, knowing you still have feelings for him, but claiming it's for the kids. No, bitch, it's for YOU! Do you think I would have moved into an apartment building with my children's father, and he's married to another woman? Hell no! Tara did it because she still wants Peter. Eh, Tara, if you like it I love it, but you're still a damn fool!

 Tara had the nerve to tell Amina that Amina wants her life and that's why she allowed herself to become pregnant. Now, damn, Tara. She wants YOUR life? Really? And what life is that? Peter has children with four other women, so...what life are you speaking of? The life of a single mother? Not hard to get that. The life of a woman that KNOWINGLY gets pregnant by another woman's husband, thinking she's proving a point, but only making herself look ridiculous? The life of a woman that that was Peter's girlfriend for 13 years, but couldn't get a ring? What life does she want, Tara? Enlighten me, because I am seriously confused. Amina slept with, and became pregnant by her husband, because that's what most wives do. If she's using a baby to hold on to Peter, what's your excuse? Isn't that why you waited until you were 18 weeks to reveal...Peter couldn't ask for an abortion then, and you know that he would. No, Amina's not thirsty, but you're dying of dehydration! And when did the wife have to start asking for permission from the sidechick to get pregnant by her own husband? I don't see why Tara doesn't see the logic in this.

But what's funny is...Tara has the nerve to act indignant. As if she really has a place to be mad in this situation. There wouldn't BE a situation if it weren't for Tara. I almost sympathize with her, though. You have to be a sad person, devoid of self-worth, to compete for a trophy that isn't worth winning. She's a beautiful, smart woman, and hopefully reality will set in, because this... Tara could have shut this sh** down a long time ago, if she loved herself more that she loved Peter. If she were really "doing this for the kids", then she wouldn't be in this baseline, ghetto relationship that is her, Amina, and Peter. I could go on, but long story short, I'm sick and damn tired of seeing this bullsh** that is these three. Can #LHHNY come up with another story line for these three...please?

They say love is blind...they didn't say it was deaf, dumb, and retarded, too. *sigh*

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Ladies, it's YOUR fault! Stop Getting Pregnant!

Yall need to cut that mess out! Out here getting pregnant, and it's all YOUR fault! Yes, YOUR fault! You provided the sperm YOURself, you laid down by YOURself, inseminated YOURself, and got pregnant, all by YOUR lonely self! So getting pregnant is YOUR fault!

Yeah, right! GTFOH with all that...

Lately, we've been inundated with reports of Fetty Wap blaming Masika Kalysha for getting pregnant, accusing her of trying to "trap him". Now, isn't that ironic? Imagine that... He allegedly told her that because she didn't believe in abortion (he wanted her to have one), she must not believe in protection, either. Huh?

Then, there's Beyonce's pappy, Matthew Knowles, who has been forced by the courts to provide to provide medical insurance, back child support, and current child support to one of the children that he conceived outside of his marriage to Mama Knowles.  He blames his baby's mother, stating that she should have had an abortion, which he claims he gave her over $200K as hush money, in hopes that she would do. According to many on social media, she should take care of the baby on her own, because she knew he was married when she slept with him. Please!!!!!!

We don't have to look to the stars. We all know some ignorant kneegrow that claims that any child conceived that he didn't want, is no fault of his.  How does one even come to this conclusion?

When a man and a woman consent to sleep with one another, if a child is conceived of that union, then both parents are to blame.  Fetty Wap has a song called "Trap Queen". You mean to tell me he knows about cooking dope, but not how to NOT get caught up by a "trap queen"? So, he's really dumb enough to believe that any woman that says she is on birth control, actually IS on birth control? And even if she were, what if she had HIV? Birth control doesn't prevent a person from contracting STDs.  The sooner we learn that, the better.

It doesn't matter the circumstances under which a child was conceived (unless a rape was involved--different story).  If a woman knows a man is married, it is not her responsibility to protect him.  It's his responsibility, both to himself, and to his spouse.  He has as much responsibility for conceiving that child as the woman that he conceived it with, and all the responsibility that comes with the birthing and raising of said child.  So all that other mess, it's a moot point. Let's stop blaming the women for something that they can not, and did not, do on their own.

And women, we must do better at choosing who we allow to permeate our walls of trust, becoming "baby mamas" for men that don't love us enough to respect you as their child's mother. Men that call us out of our names, accuse us of "trapping them", fail to play a part of their child's life, physically, mentally, and financially (without the force of the courts). We must make better choices. We have to--our kids are depending on us. 

"Stop blaming others for their part, and start taking responsibility for the part YOU played"--Jerry Corstens

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Fetty Wap says "Eye Promise It Ain't Mine"

Masika and Fetty (dailyentertainmentnews.com)

              

See, this is that sh** I'm talking about! Now, I was riding with Fetty at first, but this bull he's pulling with Masika Kalysha...mane, I can't with this ninja!

I'm sure that you have been exposed to one or more blogs or gossip sites that reported that Masika Kalysha has hit paydirt...I mean, is now pregnant, and the father is alleged to be Fetty Wap.  This comes as no surprise, considering for a minute that they were all boo'd up, with pictures posted all across social media. Not only has Fetty been boo'd up with Masika, but he also has his MAIN side chick, aka Alexis Sky, and when I say this, I mean it, and only GOD knows who else.

AND THEN THIS HAPPENS!

(hotnewhiphop.com)

Masika gets knocked up! But guess what? This is a special kinda pregnancy. You know, one of those pregnancies that actually require two people to actually have sex and create a life. Yeah, one of those.  I didn't know if you had actually heard of one of those types of pregnancies, seeing as sh** like this appears to be new to Fetty.

Now, in this age of social media, "thotting", and come ups, it's no wonder that Masika Kalysha is pregnant, singing "and I'm keeping my baby" (in my Madonna voice).  I strongly doubt that Masika was ever truly in love with Fetty, as he obviously wasn't in love with her, but they had enough "like" for one another to screw and possibly make a baby.  He got what he wanted--a hot new, social media socialite on his arm, and she got what she wanted--some rich d***.  Now that she's pregnant, and plans to keep the baby, this, in the social media world, makes her "a winner".

According to TMZ,  Fetty ain't wanting no baby with Masika, and his initial reaction was to ask why she didn't have an abortion.  Masika ALLEGEDLY told Fetty that she didn't believe in abortion, and his ALLEGED retort is that she obviously didn't believe in condoms. He ALLEGEDLY tells her that he will not participate in raising the child, and that he wants a DNA test.



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I can completely understand Fetty Wap for wanting a DNA test.  He's a very wealthy young man, and many people are looking at him, Chris Brown, and others like them, as goldmines.  This is why men like Fetty piss me the hell off! YOU KNOW GOOD AND DAMN WELL THAT THESE LADIES ARE LOOKING TO COME UP! SO WHY ARE YOU ACTING SURPRISED WHEN THEY BECOME PREGNANT?  That is what sex is for--so that we can be fruitful and multiply.  If your azz doesn't want to be F.A.M., then you must use protection!

It's up to you, up to US, to protect ourselves!  Fetty ain't no damn fool...he just plays one on TV.  You can't tell me that he actually fell for the "I'm on the pill" line. That sh** is as old as Betty White (I love her, though)! I don't care if a woman says they are on the pill, it is up to the man to make sure that he protects himself, and vice versa. If you celebrity men don't want to cut those big azz checks for these little bastard children that you didn't want in the first place, then start taking some responsibility for yourself, and PROTECT YOURSELF!  If you don't, then don't go crying talking about "it ain't mine", and don't be surprised when she's singing "Poppa Don't Preach" to your stupid azz.  I'd keep it, too! Hell, I'm tired of working. Somebody cut me a check! Somethings we set ourselves up for...yeah, Fetty, you did that!

And FYI...Fetty's saying that he doesn't want any part in raising the baby ain't hurting Masika.  Hell, you've done your job.  You've given her an 18 year paycheck, and she doesn't even have to pretend to love that one good eye you have. #BoyBye


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