Ladies, it's YOUR fault! Stop Getting Pregnant!

Yall need to cut that mess out! Out here getting pregnant, and it's all YOUR fault! Yes, YOUR fault! You provided the sperm YOURself, you laid down by YOURself, inseminated YOURself, and got pregnant, all by YOUR lonely self! So getting pregnant is YOUR fault!

Yeah, right! GTFOH with all that...

Lately, we've been inundated with reports of Fetty Wap blaming Masika Kalysha for getting pregnant, accusing her of trying to "trap him". Now, isn't that ironic? Imagine that... He allegedly told her that because she didn't believe in abortion (he wanted her to have one), she must not believe in protection, either. Huh?

Then, there's Beyonce's pappy, Matthew Knowles, who has been forced by the courts to provide to provide medical insurance, back child support, and current child support to one of the children that he conceived outside of his marriage to Mama Knowles.  He blames his baby's mother, stating that she should have had an abortion, which he claims he gave her over $200K as hush money, in hopes that she would do. According to many on social media, she should take care of the baby on her own, because she knew he was married when she slept with him. Please!!!!!!

We don't have to look to the stars. We all know some ignorant kneegrow that claims that any child conceived that he didn't want, is no fault of his.  How does one even come to this conclusion?

When a man and a woman consent to sleep with one another, if a child is conceived of that union, then both parents are to blame.  Fetty Wap has a song called "Trap Queen". You mean to tell me he knows about cooking dope, but not how to NOT get caught up by a "trap queen"? So, he's really dumb enough to believe that any woman that says she is on birth control, actually IS on birth control? And even if she were, what if she had HIV? Birth control doesn't prevent a person from contracting STDs.  The sooner we learn that, the better.

It doesn't matter the circumstances under which a child was conceived (unless a rape was involved--different story).  If a woman knows a man is married, it is not her responsibility to protect him.  It's his responsibility, both to himself, and to his spouse.  He has as much responsibility for conceiving that child as the woman that he conceived it with, and all the responsibility that comes with the birthing and raising of said child.  So all that other mess, it's a moot point. Let's stop blaming the women for something that they can not, and did not, do on their own.

And women, we must do better at choosing who we allow to permeate our walls of trust, becoming "baby mamas" for men that don't love us enough to respect you as their child's mother. Men that call us out of our names, accuse us of "trapping them", fail to play a part of their child's life, physically, mentally, and financially (without the force of the courts). We must make better choices. We have to--our kids are depending on us. 

"Stop blaming others for their part, and start taking responsibility for the part YOU played"--Jerry Corstens

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Future Wages War on Cici!!!

Ciara vs Future

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Future has his guns out for Ciara, aka Cici, and he's comin' a'blazin! He claims that he is paying $15,000 monthly for child support, but Ciara won't let him see his son. Then comes the collective judgment of instagram and twitter... *sigh*

Ok, let's go ahead and put it out there...

NONE OF US WERE THERE, SO WE DON'T KNOW WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON!

You have men on twitter, butt-hurt and all in their feelings, because of whatever past or present baby-momma situations they have going on, calling Ciara everything but a child of God.  Some of these females are going hard (and I feel you), but we honestly have to admit, like the men: We don't know what's going on behind closed doors. How can we honestly judge Future and Ciara's situation, if we are not privy to the ins-and-outs of their parental relationship? #1. We can't. #2. It's not our job to judge, although the way that we go in on these celebrity relationships, you would think that we get W-2's for criticizing.

All we do know is this: 1. Future has many baby-mommas, including Ciara. 2. Ciara has dated other rappers, but has no other children. 3. Ciara loved Future. 4. Something happened (infidelity, allegedly) and their engagement was broken off. 5. They have a handsome little boy that they call "Baby Future". 6. Ciara has moved on. 7. Future enjoys bashing Ciara in the media (and tends to act like a bitter baby-daddy; I'm not judging, but I can be a little biased, though). 8.  Future alleges that he pays $15K per month in child support, but is not allowed to see his child. 

If Ciara really isn't allowing Future to see his son, I hope that she has a valid reason to support that decision.  I do know that Future calling Ciara a "bitch" on social media is not going to help his case, whatsoever. Yet, I am not the one that she has to explain it to, so instead of judging their situation, let's learn something from it. Because, trust and believe, whatever they are going through, they are doing it quite better than most of us. A lot of you don't even know the state that your baby-daddy resides in...so you really don't have the place to talk about Ciara. Too many of you guys don't know when you even saw your children last, so you definitely don't have room to talk about Future. For those mothers and fathers that are doing it right, I salute you!

Let's just agree to this: Let's hope that Future takes a cue from Ciara, and learns how to handle things as a grown man, and not a child throwing a tantrum. I hope that they are able to work out their differences for Baby Future, because if not, Baby Future will suffer most from this chaotic situation, much more than his parents.

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