Ok. First of all, let's make one thing abundantly CLEAR--in no shape, form, or fashion did the actions of Kenya Moore (I can't even believe that I just said that, because I'm definitely no Kenya Moore fan) cause the explosive, violent behavior that was displayed by Glen Rice, Jr. on last night's episode of Real Housewives of Atlanta. I think it's obvious that Glen Rice, Jr. was a disrespectful, entitled asshole before he ever graced our television screens. Glen is the type that will call a woman every name except for "Child of God", just because she rebukes his advances. "F*** you, b****!" Ask Glen. I bet he's said it a thousand times (probably saying it to someone right now).
Now, last night, as disturbed as I was by Glen's ratchet-azz attitude and volatile behavior (for a full recap, see http://straightfromthea.com/2015/12/21/recap-rhoa-season-8-ep7-miami-spice-watch-full-video/ ) , there were 2 more issues that were that just SCREAMING to be addressed: the victim blaming that was displayed during the show, and Phaedra's attempt to draw a correlation between Glen Rice, Jr., and Micheal Brown, which to say the least, was less than a poor comparison.
Let's talk about the victim blaming. This reminds me of something I read about Amber Rose just the other day. Amber claimed to have been sexually assaulted, (at school, mind you) and when she went to the principal's office to report what had happened to her, she was told that she shouldn't have worn the skirt that she had on that day. Also reminds me of Lynn Whitfield's character in Tyler Perry's "Madea's Family Reunion" telling her movie daughter, upon the revelation that the daughter's husband (played by Blair Underwood) was beating her, that she must stop doing whatever it is that she does to provoke him. This situation with Glen Jr. is no different. Glen is obviously a hothead. Just this October, Glen was shot in the leg during an altercation at T.I.'s restaurant in Atlanta, after a verbal altercation became physical (http://www.tmz.com/2015/10/26/glen-rice-jr-shot-in-leg-in-fight-at-t-i-s-restaurant/). And it took very little to rile him up during the RHOA trip. Glen has an explosive attitude, and that is not the fault of anyone that was on that Miami trip. Glen is responsible for his own actions. He is a grown azz man! He could have bridled his tongue, and if they wanted him to leave, he could have, EASILY, without any confrontation. As far as Kenya telling him that she would like for him to leave because he made some of the ladies feel uncomfortable, who can blame her? Hell, he made me uncomfortable, and I was sitting at home!
People, there is such a thing as instigating and inciting a fight. Kenya did neither (although the other ladies' dislike of Kenya have surely biased their opinions of what happened). His response was inappropriate to his situation. Calling women "bitches" and "hoes", without provocation, was unnecessary. Pushing through people to try to physically reach Kenya was excessive, and had security not been present, who knows what would have happened? We need to stop telling women that being abused, whether physically or verbally, is something that they "asked for". He was disrespectful from the moment that he got screen time. Kandi didn't ask, nor provoke, him to get "turnt up" with her, and he stepped to Kenya like he was about to fight a dude. All unnecessary responses, when all he had to do was what--just leave! I was shocked, and almost offended, that Phaedra and some of the other ladies would insinuate that Kenya, or anyone else for that matter, caused Glen Rice, Jr. to act in the manner that he did. Not saying that one can not be provoked, just in this particular instance, it certainly wasn't the case.
Now, for Phae-Phae! Phaedra, Phaedra, Phaedra! #WeGottaTalk! Love, what were you thinking?! As soon as the words crossed your lips, I wanted to reach inside the television and pop you in your damn throat (and I say that with love)! I am a fan of Phaedra, but this time, Phaedra's ramblings weren't spot on, they were dead wrong. You can not, I say again, YOU CAN NOT, and WILL NOT, draw a comparison between the behavior exhibited by Glen Rice, Jr, someone's whose violent temperament may have caused him to be shot in the leg (where he was also seen to be discarding a gun), to the murders of Trayvon Rice and Michael Brown. That is the correlation that "White America", and society in general, wants us to believe. That all young black men are violent, hostile, and angry. I wasn't there to see Trayvon murdered, but I do know that he was walking home while talking to a friend, which leads me to believe that his behavior was no where similar to that of Glen's. His murder was unnecessary, and unprovoked. They want us to believe that Michael's behavior was like that of Glen's, and that he deserved to be shot. For you to see Glen's behavior, and to make that comparison on TELEVISION-- I was flabbergasted (in my Katt William's voice). Yes, you should be worried about Glen. Behavior like his is more likely to get him shot in his own 'hood, than by the police. Instead of drawing comparisons to Michael Brown and Trayvon Martin, what you should have been doing is trying to tell that young man, "Look, if you don't get your sh** together, you are going to end up dead." I don't know how this young man was raised, but his parents cannot be proud. Every young man like Glen is NOT Trayvon, because EVERY young, black man is not walking around with a chip on his shoulder. That was an unfair comparison, Phaedra. Unintentional, but very, very wrong, and unfair.
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