Why I'm Pissed at Cardi B

Cardi and her historic Grammy win via E! news

 I AM MAD AT YOU BELCALIS MARLENIS ALMANZAR CEPHUS!

On the same day that Cardi wins a Grammy, being the first solo female to win Best Rap Album in a genre and category dominated by men, her daughter Kulture finally says "momma", and then...and then...Cardi deletes her IG. And I am pissed. Thank you, social media trolls and bullies! 

First of all, I don't know why anyone goes out of there way to go to a  person's page that they don't like just to comment all that negativity and vitriol.  If I don't like you, why would I even go to your page?  Folks go all out of their way to comment from outside a club that they can't even get in.  For whyyyyyyyy???  Cardi B has deleted her page because of social media bullying, particularly, people popping off about her Grammy win, saying that she didn't deserve it.  Well, guess what?  Millions of people thought she did.  To win in a male dominated field and category should be considered an honor, but the trolls only see that their favorite didn't win.  They are mad because she won. They are mad because Offset supported his wife on stage. They are mad at everything she does. And they bully. And they bully. And. They. Bully.

I saw one comment that said that, in reference to scenes from the rapper Blueface's song with Cardi, that "that's all she's good for...being a stripper hoe and fake rapper".  Well, let me let you in on a lil' secret...last time I checked, dudes were paying to see hoes, not listen to them.  Cardi has made millions because people love HER and her MUSIC.  These record labels, fashion execs, etc. would not put the money behind Cardi if they didn't believe in her, just like her fans do.  They believe in her, and they support her! They buy the tickets, they buy the music.  Not only is she talented, she is beloved by celebs and non-celebs alike, because unlike some others, she doesn't present herself as "untouchable".  Cardi is truly the #PeoplesChamp!

And another thing you may not know...you can actually like both Cardi and Nicki. No one told you that? Well, like...yeah, you can.  In a male dominated field, how many of you only like 1 male rapper? I love TI, Gucci, Drake, Jay Cole, and 21 Savage. The same goes for women in the industry.  You can like more than one female MC. And if you don't--fine--you don't have to disrespect the others just because they are not your fav! Let's grow up, people!

But as to why I'm pissed at Cardi...Cardi has millions of fans that love and adore her. I'm one of those fans.  I have watched her go from social media, to #LoveandHipHop, to top of the charts, to now winning one of the music industry's highest honors.  My soror is a pastor that loves her. Another is a teacher that loves her. Children love her. Celebs love her. Old people love her. I couldn't be more proud of her if she were my own child.  Yet, to see her give so much power to the haters and trolls of social media is disheartening.  It shows me that no matter how many fans and supporters love her, the haters still have more influence over her than her millions of adoring fans.   It's also disheartening to see how evil social media trolls can be, to seek out a person that does not even know they exist, just to try to degrade them and minimize their accomplishment.  It's sick, and I hope you internet trolls play with matches wearing gasoline draws, you bitches....but I digress.

Cardi, I'm mad at you because you let their hate blind you to your fans love! Fuck 'em! Fuck 'em upside the wall with high heel shoes on!  I know it's hard, but for all the hatred, you have a whole planet that loves and supports you.  #BardiGang...forever!

Come back, Cardi!

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#LHHNY: Tara, Amina, and That Damn Peter Gunz!

Tara and Amina (vh1.com) 

So, here we go again with the what? Third or fourth season of Tara and Amina arguing over Peter Gunz. Peter Gunz? Yes, Peter Gunz. I don't know what kinda game Peter has, because every time I see him, he looks like he's on a hall pass from the special ed room. He's a nice looking man, but damn, he looks slow. I wonder what kinda conversation they have... Anyway, on this last episode of #LHHNY, Amina decides to confront Tara about her husband. Why she sees the need to do this, I haven't the faintest idea. I guess, in Amina's mind, she has every right to confront Tara, seeing as she feels that Tara and Peter are still sleeping together. She's correct--she has every right to confront Tara, but does that make it the right thing to do? I never would have confronted Tara about Peter, because if Amina was feeling in her spirit that somethin' in the air stank, then she should have trusted her instinct. If she knows nothing by now, it's that Peter will cheat, and Peter will lie. So why keep allowing herself to be trampled on? Well, love is a mighty powerful thing, but lack of respect for yourself is even more powerful.

Anywhoo, Tara decides to stage a "Peter-vention", where Amina and her would confront Peter and the truth would set them all free. Girl, bye! Ain't nobody that damn stupid! Tara didn't do that because she was on some noble quest for the truth; she did it because that was one more time that she could rub her relationship with Peter in Amina's face. I mean, what truth does she need? She KNOWS that she's still screwing Peter. She KNOWS that he's still married to Amina, regardless of what he claims to be the status of their relationship. So what more does Tara need to know? Oh, she knows that Peter means her, nor Amina, any good, but for some reason, these two ladies just can't let go. Then, according to the blogs, Tara is ALLEGEDLY pregnant by Peter, and the last thing we here Amina yell at him is that she's pregnant, too! #DisTewMuch
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When in the hell does this three-way from hell end? I'm about to name some of my Sims© characters after Peter, Tara, and Amina, and just move them all in together. One big happy family. Makes more sense this way, doesn't it? I mean, Tara wants to win, but if the prize is Peter, has she won anything? Because if he doesn't cheat with Amina, it will be with someone else. The same goes for Tara. At least if they walk away from this situation, maybe they both can come away with some sense of dignity, and maybe, one day, find what real love is. I've found from being in a similar situation that the best thing that a woman can do is to love herself. When she loves herself, that love is so powerful, that it WILL NOT allow a woman to remain in a situation where she is not respected and valued. Been there, done that, got a badge to prove it. Yet these women are too busy swearing that every decision that they make is for their kids. Let me tell ya, your kids will never want their mother to be devalued and unloved. When mommy's happy, the kiddos are happy. But, what say you?

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